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The Evils of Statistics

Posted by Henric C. Jensen on June 7, 2008


Remember this entry?:

Women Would NEVER…or?

Some of the comments on those two news items in that entry coincide with a comment made on another News Item I posted today:

Young People Have Unwanted Sex
World (tags: Children, sex, dissertation, Sweden )

Henric C
abearsdayinthenews.wordpress.com

One in seven Senior High School girls have had sexual intercourse against their will. Among boys of the same age it’s one in seventeen.

The very first comment was: “BOYS! NO MEANS NO!!!” – no shadow shall fall on the woman who said it, she later came in and apologized and said that she should have included the girls too, and not singled out the boys – so don’t think badly of her.

The point I am using her comment to make is that it is all too common that people have knee-jerk reactions to news stories about unwanted sex.

People simply assume that if we are talking about unwanted sex, we are talking about girls not wanting sex, and boys forcing them to have sex.

Sexism – pure and simple sexism.

Not that most people will admit to being sexist, so they very often try and “save themselves” by referring to a statistical body which will confirm the idea that more girls than boys are being sexually abused and that the abusers are either men or boys.

The fact is that the statistics is skewed. The statistics has an agenda.

The fact is that the male gender-role doesn’t allow for victimization and the female gender role encourages victimization.

The fact is that we really don’t know exactly how many girls or boys are being sexually abused, either by their peers or by an adult they trust.

What we know is that more females report being subjected to unwanted sexual attention than males – but we have no way of knowing if this is a true indicator of an imbalance in the victimization, or if what we can glean from the statistics are the “white numbers” and that there are “black numbers” we are unaware of.

Even an anonymous survey of 4000 Swedish Senior High School Student is a blunt and inaccurate instrument.

The young people being surveyed may very well be lying, consciously or subconsciously remembering incidents where the gray zone between wanted and unwanted is closer to the truth than they are willing to admit even to themselves.

The adult who wrote the survey may consciously or subconsciously have written the questions in a manner that will skew the statistics in the end.

Why am I saying this?

Because we are all victims of the ideas of what is proper or expected of our respective gender-role.

Boys will more often that not write off unwanted sexual attention as not really being unwanted, because boys are (still) taught to take their self-realization as males from the sexual attention they get from girls (or women).

Girls will more often than not write off wanted sexual attention as not really wanted, because girls are still taught to take their self-realization as females from the idea that they are not really sexual beings.

So they will lie.

A boy will lie about not wanting the sexual attention from a teacher because he experienced an erection when she (or he) fondled him.

A girl will lie about wanting the sexual attention from a teacher because she has a crush on him (or her).

Both genders will lie about what actually happened (positive or negative) out of fear of what parents, peers and the school might say if they knew.

So, in the end we cannot really trust any statistics – it was not for nothing that Samuel Clemens said: There three types of lies: Lies, damned lies and statistics.

The best we can do is to make an effort to not apply those horrid gender-roles to our views when we hear about sexual abuse or sexual activity, and try to remember to assume that what is true for one gender is true also for the other.

Unless we do we will never experience true Gender Equality.

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Women Would NEVER…or?

Posted by Henric C. Jensen on June 2, 2008


Women can’t rape, men cannot be raped….

The Local – Woman Charged Over Violent Rape
World (tags: female rapist, female victim, aggravated rape )

Henric C
thelocal.se

A 32-year-old woman from northern Sweden has been indicted on a charge of aggravated rape after forcing another woman at knife point to perform oral sex. The Prosecutor said that it is extremely unusual for a woman to be charged with aggravated rape.

The Local – Woman Held for Raping Man in Stockholm
World (tags: Rape, Female rapist, male victim )

Henric C
thelocal.se

A 41-year-old woman in being held by police in Stockholm on suspicions of raping a 30-year-old man who went home with her after the two met at an area pub on Monday night.

Isn’t ironic that the very same day when there is a discussion in Human Rights Network, in which it is being claimed that rape and abuse in war-zones is a male thing, and not something both gender can commit, I find these two news stories?

I am going to savour this – not because I think rape is something acceptable, but because I found RECENT news refuting the idea that women don’t rape and men cannot be raped.

Posted in Gender Politics, Rape, Sexual abuse | Tagged: , , , , , | 3 Comments »

Just don’t Rape

Posted by Henric C. Jensen on October 6, 2007


I found this – it was originally written about women, but it should really be written about PEOPLE – regardless of gender or gender identity – which the original writer acknowledges in the last paragraph. I respect and salute that. Here’s a re-written version.

A lot has been said about how to prevent rape. People should learn self-defense. People should lock themselves in their houses after dark. People shouldn’t have long hair, or short hair, and people shouldn’t wear revealing clothes. People shouldn’t leave drinks unattended. After all, they shouldn’t dare to get drunk at all.

Instead of that bull, how about:

If a person is drunk, don’t rape them.

If a person is walking alone at night, don’t rape them.

If a person is drugged and unconscious, don’t rape them.

If a person is wearing revealing clothes, don’t rape them.

If a person is jogging in a park at 5 am, don’t rape them.

If a person looks like your ex-partner you’re still hung up on, don’t rape them.

If a person is asleep in their bed, don’t rape them.

If a person is asleep in your bed, don’t rape them.

If a person is doing their laundry, don’t rape them.

If a person is in a coma, don’t rape them.

If a person changes them mind in the middle of or about a particular activity, don’t rape them.

If a person has repeatedly refused a certain activity, don’t rape them.

If a person is not yet an adult, but a child, don’t rape them.

If your significant other is not in the mood, don’t rape them.

If your step-children is watching TV, don’t rape them.

If you break into a house and find a person there, don’t rape them.

If your friend thinks it’s okay to rape someone, tell him it’s not, and that he’s not your friend. If your “friend” tells you they raped someone, report them to the police. If your frat-brother or sorority-sister or another guy/gal at the party tells you there’s an unconscious person upstairs and it’s your turn, don’t rape them, call the police and tell the guy he’s a rapist.

Tell your children, god-children, nephews/nieces, grandchildren, children of friends it’s not okay to rape someone.

Don’t tell your friends how to be safe and avoid rape.

Don’t imply that they could have avoided it if they’d only done/not done x.

Don’t imply that it’s in any way their fault.

Don’t let silence imply agreement when someone tells you they “got some” with the drunk person.

Don’t perpetuate a culture that tells you that you have no control over or responsibility for your actions. You can, too, help yourself.

If you agree, re-post it. Copy this and paste. It’s that important!

Note: This goes for any gendered rape, male on female or female on male or female on female or FTM on MTF or non gendered to dual gendered and so on and so forth…

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