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Archive for January 6th, 2010

OTM of Being Human

Posted by Henric C. Jensen on January 6, 2010


“You don’t get harmony when everybody sings the same note.”
Doug Floyd

I participated in a discussion about ‘What is Our True Nature?’

In one post I wrote:

My question [What if we ARE awake but believe that we are asleep?] comes from all the ‘high-flying spiritual stuff’ that we pander to each other in our attempts to figure out what is often – to my mind at least – either inexplicable or for lack of better word, redundant.

We chase enlightenment, awakening, salvation, tzaddikheit, as if it’s the holy grail, at the beckoning of others who somehow manage to convince us that we are all asleep and need what ever ‘cure’ they have for that.

But can humanness be ‘cured’? Is it supposed to be cured?

One of my favorite Rabbi Sayings goes: When I get to heaven, they will not ask me why I was not Moses, but why I was not Zuzya.” (Rabbi Zuzya of Hanipoli)

…perhaps “Our True Nature” doesn’t exist, all that is is Your True Nature and My True Nature, and the point is to honor that and live it the best each of us can?

I am Unique. G-d Created me in Their Image, and I will worship Him as I see fit. I will seek Her in my way and play my Music my way. You pander your solutions to me, proffering your nuggets of lead at me, claiming they are gold – but they are stones to me, they do not come from my claim, that G-d gave me on the Day I was born, the Day She whispered my Name and said: You are Mine!

What if we do not have to chase anything, what if all our cures for Humanness are nothing but chaff and ash, and all there is is the Whisper: You are Mine and the answer is a simple: "Yes!"?

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OTM of Forgiveness

Posted by Henric C. Jensen on January 6, 2010


Sometimes forgiveness does have limits; if a person keeps making the same mistake for which they’re apologizing it makes the apology meaningless!

I agree.

Apologies made out of habit, where it seems like the other person doesn’t really care whether he or she hurts someone, it becomes meaningless, and most spiritual paths will agree on this. What happens in the person who is wronged is that the hurt festers to resentment and eventually dejection.

And then again I don’t.

Because not all ‘repetitive apologies’ are made ‘out of habit’.

Somewhere in all that apologizing is an awareness of wrong done and damage inflicted, and an acute sense of powerlessness to change.

How on Earth can I say this? Because I know what it means to make the same mistake over and over and not being able to change the behavior. Not knowing HOW to change, does not equal not WANTING to change.

Every time I find myself having done the same thing, the same mistake, the same damage, the same wrongdoing the shame and pain becomes stronger, fiercer and seem to be the very fuel the shortcoming feeds on…

In that space, a compassionate acceptance of my apology and reassurance that the balance has been restored between me and the wronged person can mean the difference between succumbing to a soul-killing shame and renewed courage to seek a remedy to the ‘illness’ that prevents me from readily change the behavior.

The core of the problem is that we cannot truly know what kind of apology we are being offered or why the person apologizing seem unable to change the behavior.

We can only choose to do either of two things – ask G-d to give us the patience and compassion to assume that there’s a ‘good’ reason the other seems to have trouble changing or remove ourselves from that person’s company altogether, so that we do not build resentment and end up dejected, feeling that we are not worthy of respect.

It’s all up to us.

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