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Just don’t Rape

Posted by Henric C. Jensen on October 6, 2007

I found this – it was originally written about women, but it should really be written about PEOPLE – regardless of gender or gender identity – which the original writer acknowledges in the last paragraph. I respect and salute that. Here’s a re-written version.

A lot has been said about how to prevent rape. People should learn self-defense. People should lock themselves in their houses after dark. People shouldn’t have long hair, or short hair, and people shouldn’t wear revealing clothes. People shouldn’t leave drinks unattended. After all, they shouldn’t dare to get drunk at all.

Instead of that bull, how about:

If a person is drunk, don’t rape them.

If a person is walking alone at night, don’t rape them.

If a person is drugged and unconscious, don’t rape them.

If a person is wearing revealing clothes, don’t rape them.

If a person is jogging in a park at 5 am, don’t rape them.

If a person looks like your ex-partner you’re still hung up on, don’t rape them.

If a person is asleep in their bed, don’t rape them.

If a person is asleep in your bed, don’t rape them.

If a person is doing their laundry, don’t rape them.

If a person is in a coma, don’t rape them.

If a person changes them mind in the middle of or about a particular activity, don’t rape them.

If a person has repeatedly refused a certain activity, don’t rape them.

If a person is not yet an adult, but a child, don’t rape them.

If your significant other is not in the mood, don’t rape them.

If your step-children is watching TV, don’t rape them.

If you break into a house and find a person there, don’t rape them.

If your friend thinks it’s okay to rape someone, tell him it’s not, and that he’s not your friend. If your “friend” tells you they raped someone, report them to the police. If your frat-brother or sorority-sister or another guy/gal at the party tells you there’s an unconscious person upstairs and it’s your turn, don’t rape them, call the police and tell the guy he’s a rapist.

Tell your children, god-children, nephews/nieces, grandchildren, children of friends it’s not okay to rape someone.

Don’t tell your friends how to be safe and avoid rape.

Don’t imply that they could have avoided it if they’d only done/not done x.

Don’t imply that it’s in any way their fault.

Don’t let silence imply agreement when someone tells you they “got some” with the drunk person.

Don’t perpetuate a culture that tells you that you have no control over or responsibility for your actions. You can, too, help yourself.

If you agree, re-post it. Copy this and paste. It’s that important!

Note: This goes for any gendered rape, male on female or female on male or female on female or FTM on MTF or non gendered to dual gendered and so on and so forth…

6 Responses to “Just don’t Rape”

  1. Dale Husband said

    “I found this – it was originally written about people, but it should really be written about PERSONS.”
    I think your meant “originally written about women” in that first sentence, right?


  2. Leslie D. said

    Thank you, S(o)B. This really needs to be said, and it’s people like yourself, Dale and the others, whose word will spread this message. If it makes just one person stop, think and act, it will be quite worth the effort.

    Bright Blessings,


  3. Thank you Dale for catching that – I edited. Funny thing is I edited it in the Optional Excerpt section, but forgot to edit it in the Blog – I used a “Replace all” in a Edit Program to edit the entire text… Note to self: Always Proof-read…


  4. Thank you Leslie, for your comment, and for writing the original – I chose not to attribute it to you to avoid controversy on Care2…

    This has always been self-evident to me, and I really don’t get how people are wired who chose to rape others. It’s so far from me I can’t even imagine such a mind set.


  5. Leslie Delgado said

    It doesn’t need to be attributed to anyone, Bear. It only needs to be said.

    Thank you for editing, and for all you do.

    Bright Blessings,


  6. Holly said

    Hi SB. This is a fantastic post, and I’m glad I found it. If you (and Leslie, who wrote it) have no issue with it, I’d like to copy and post this up on my blogs, as well. I think it’s critically important that people in general start working harder to overcome their own apathy and their own fear of rejection to get messages like this one out. Rape is such a horrifying experience, and I think that the more people who share this wonderful post, the better.


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