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Archive for June 19th, 2007

Continued from Last Entry

Posted by Henric C. Jensen on June 19, 2007


“Bear, this thread is about stereotypes I do not like 12:42 PMI never said it was you…you did that…and I never mentioned where the video was…you did that.

I do not like the stereotypes on the video, and I find them offensive.

I said “proposedly Jewish friend”…which means to me that the person posting the video claims to be Jewish, which is true.

This group is also about dispelling false stereotypes. To me, that video is full of false stereotypes.”

“[…], 12:55 PM

you said “proclaimed Jewish Friend” – regardless of who this person is – why is it important to bring the alleged Jewishness into this? Also, considering our latest conversations in NM, me suspecting you of underhandedly bringing up my supposed Anti-Arabism (which is also), is not at all surprising.

Second – the video is a PEACE VIDEO – there are no Israelis there, no Jews, and the images could be from any Western Country, except the one of Bush and Cheney, and any Arab Country in the World – it’s Video about the unnecessary clash between our prejudices about each other – where ever we live.

To claim that the video is depicting Americans and Israelis against Muslims is utter horse manure, regardless of your own perceptions – it’s simply FALSE. You could easily have brought this stereotype here without distorting the intent and mission of the video.”

“Bear, this thread is about stereotypes of nationalities 1:19 PM

It is full of stereotypes. I take offense to the stereotypes, and want to clear it up.

Again, I never said which video it was, or whose video it was…I never even said which “proposedly Jewish friend”…I have hundreds of friends on care2, and many are “proposedly Jewish”. Again, you announced on this thread that it was your video.”

For crying out loud – of course the video is full of stereotypes, that is the purpose of the video – to visualize the prejudices we have and then ask us: IS THIS HOW YOU SEE ME?

But there’s a far cry between saying that the video is full of stereotypes and claiming that it’s a video depicting the US and Israel together against Muslims…

Please, ignorant woman! GO BACK TO SCHOOL and don’t leave until you can pass without mistakes and fumbles.

Shalom

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Reading things into things that doesn’t exist there…

Posted by Henric C. Jensen on June 19, 2007


“I saw a video on a proclaimed Jewish friend’s blog that I found incredibly offensive…it showed U.S. citizens and Israelis as being one and the same against Muslims.”

This woman was referring to this video: only proving that she has understood nothing what the video is saying. And thus inferring that I am Anti-Arab. Which I am not, nor have ever been – I am Anti-War, Anti-Prejudice

She then – after I called her on it by saying this:

“[…]if you look at the video you will see that it doesn’t depict Israelis and Americans as being against Arabs – it shows how we are all the same. Same blood, same wishes, same needs…to make that Avaaz.org video into a racist, anti-Arab thing is simply wrong and means you have misunderstood the video entirely. I was pointed to it by a Pro-Palestinian.I would also like to know

why it is important to define “your friend” as Jewish? What does his Jewishness have to do with anything in this?

Are you profiling me? Trying to play into an anti-semitic/ anti-Jewish sentiment? Don’t you think that is counterproductive to the idea of this group? Even a bit bigoted? Racist perhaps?”

She replies:

“Bear, I was pointing that it is a stereotype I do not like and would like to dismiss The video, to me, showed Israelis and Americans as one on one side, and Muslims on the other side. I found it incredibly offensive, and want to clear up the stereotype.”

How can a video that is not depicting any Jewish People or Israelis even figure as a stereotype in this? Even in someone’s imagination. Unless there’s something very wrong in that person’s ideas about Jewish People.

Shalom!

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Domestic Violence against Men

Posted by Henric C. Jensen on June 19, 2007


If you want to find an example of ultra-successful brainwashing of the public by the media, you need look no further than the subject of domestic violence; though I have to admit that child abuse runs it a close second. If you ask the man-in-the-street what he thinks domestic violence is, he will probably tell you that it is men attacking women within the family. If you further ask him why he thinks this, he will tell you that he has heard it many times in TV news broadcasts, read about it in newspapers and magazines and has seen adverts about it on television.

 

Exactly! In a word he has been brainwashed and, sadly, he is by no means alone; he is in the company of his wife, his neighbours, his children’s teachers, his bank manager and countless politicians. They are all totally ignorant of the true facts about domestic violence. So where can these poor beleaguered souls discover the truth about this important problem which constantly batters their ears and eyeballs? The sad answer is, it’s all around them if only they use their eyes and their ears.In January 1999 the UK Government’s Home Office published the results of a survey into domestic violence. It was the biggest ever carried out anywhere in the world and involved more than 10,000 men and women. It was called Study 191 and it stated, quite categorically, that 4.2% of men and 4.2% of women perpetrate the crime of domestic violence. In other words they had discovered that men and women are equally violent.

Surprised? Don’t be. It’s nothing new and to my knowledge (and to anyone else’s who has researched the matter) it has been known for at least 30 years.”

The Oprah Winfrey Show. Four men describe how their wives hit them in the lower back with a pole, cracked them over the head or in the neck with a frying pan…the audience renews its laughter after each story. The men are part of a “PMS Men’s Support Group.”

Item. “Michael, 38, a construction worker and amateur rugby player, barricaded himself in a spare bedroom at nights to avoid beatings from his diminutive wife. During a three-year marriage he was stabbed, punched, kicked and pelted with plant pots. Despite his muscular, 15-stone [210 lbs] build, he was frightened to sleep for fear of attack. ‘Nobody would have believed me if I’d told them the constant bruising was from beatings by my wife. I still have the scars from where she tore at my flesh with her fingernails. The screams from my daughter as she witnessed the abuse will haunt me for the rest of my life.'”

Item. “Paul, 32, a former Royal Marine, said his wife, Claire, an advertising executive, could suddenly become like ‘a ferocious wild cat.’ The slightest thing would set her off. ‘She would pull me to the ground, kick me and pull large clumps of hair out of my head. I never fought back because she was a slightly built, petite woman.'”

Item. A 42-year-old British police officer, trained in tackling armed criminals (British police don’t carry guns), was twice hospitalized by his 5-foot wife. He didn’t report it. When asked why, he explained, “If I was to go up to my mates on the force and tell them my wife was regularly hitting me over the head and body with anything she could get her hands on, they would crease themselves [die laughing].”

Notice that all three of these examples are from the London Times. It is rare for equally reputable American papers to run a story in which men’s feelings and experiences about being battered are reported in their own words in such depth. Notice also that the wives are clearly weaker physically, and the men are not the passive, hen-pecked stereotype of a battered man. And note the men’s fear that if they reported this to the authorities, not only would they not be believed, they would be ridiculed (“my mates…would crease themselves”).


It really doesn’t matter from which part of the world such reports come – they are almost carbon copies of each other. Same issue, same pattern. Same invisiblization. Why? Because we are dealing with men. Men are somehow seen as ONLY the perpetrator of Domestic Violence, not as victims and survivors of Domestic Violence.

Men, in terms of Domestic Violence, are where women were 50 years ago. There are few if any Hot-lines, shelters or programs for recovery for men and boys who are victims of Domestic Violence. This is true for most democratic countries.

While female victims of Domestic Violence are likely to be believed, all in accordance with the doctrine that all men are potential perpetrators, and only questioned as to why they didn’t/don’t leave – male victims of Domestic Violence are most likely not believed or are ridiculed by society if they expose their spouses as perpetrators of Domestic Violence. More often than not they are met by questions like: “Ok, so what did you do to her, before she beat you with the frying-pan?” The answer to that question is most likely “I was trying to get her to calm down…”

Most men, if not all, are aware that they are most often physically stronger than women. This awareness plays a great role in why men do not strike back if attacked by a woman. Radical Feminist Propaganda or not – most men have been thoroughly conditioned that hitting a woman is cowardly and unmanly, and most men, also those who are abusive of women, see it as a failure when they strike. So, men do not strike back because to do so would be a failure, a weakness.

More often than not a beaten man will try and find excuses for his abusive mate. “She’s premenstrual…” “she’s had a rough day with the kids…” “her father just died…” “she had a fall-out with her sister…” especially if the abuse takes place in public. He might even accept the abuse as deserved or warranted for some behavior he has or has not engaged in. This way he frees himself from the idea that he “cannot be man enough and control his wife…” – this pattern is equal to the pattern of guilt that a female victim will display in response to abuse.

One pattern that is the same regardless of gender in domestic violence situations is the compartmentalizing the victims engage in to survive. Each instance of abuse is isolated from the previous instances, as if it happens for the first time – at the same time the victim is desensitizing him or herself in preparation for the next instance.

It is a double bind – if a man uses his greater strength to get out of an abusive situation he is seen as the perpetrator, and if he doesn’t use his greater strength, he is seen as weak and unmanly.

The ever vicious cycle of stereotype, violence, stereotype…

Shalom

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Gadgets…of course – I am boy after all!

Posted by Henric C. Jensen on June 19, 2007


I love Gadgets. I never could afford them before. Now I can, if I am not too extravagant. One species of gadget that I have always wanted, and rarely had, unless someone was wiling to sell me their old one cheap is Sound-Gadgets.

I got myself a new MP3 Player and cool in-ear phone plugs. The Player looked so big in the picture – and when I got it, it disappeared in my hand. Those ear-plugs are fabulous! They actually work like those yellow “kneed and fit” ear-plugs you use to keep noise out on construction sites. This means I will never drop the ear-pieces ever again when walking the dog.

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